Sometimes, maybe most of the time, being a parent means you just take it on the chin for your kids! When a parent becomes a line of defense for their kids and puts boundaries in place to protect them they often experience backlash. Please as a parent realize in all the eye rolls, the sighs, the attitude and screaming… your kids are really saying thank you!
In their own messy way, they are realizing you care about them, that you are protecting them and making them feel safe. It’s messy because they don’t like being reminded they don’t have it all figured out and that they still need help maneuvering through life. Working with kids day in and day out I get to see the other side. You see them lash out while I see them sit in a chair across from me and say, “I realize why my parents did that. I know they love me and want to protect me.” I say that is a victory!
So let’s put on our big girl and big boy pants and take it on the chin for our kids. Let’s show our love not by being their friend, or buying them things or taking them places, but by being their parent. Let’s make them feel safe by establishing boundaries to protect them. Let’s not conform to the world and leave our kids to themselves. Let’s commit to do some hard things. Please don’t misunderstand, I’m not encouraging you to be a legalistic ruler in your home ready to squash your kids when they mess up. Rather, let us create relationships, communicate, and point the next generation to Jesus Christ! And when our kids break our hearts and make unwise choices, let’s love them through it and work graciously to restore them. After all, this is not about us . . . this is about training them up in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6).